Eve Hayes

Age: 48
Country: South Africa
City: Cape Town

Tell us about your approach to your health before engaging with RMR.

Before I did the Psychology of Eating Program I was literally losing 25kgs and then gaining 25kgs and while losing I was white knuckling it. I would reach the goal, only to know that it would remain there for like 5 minutes before I started to put it back on.


How did you see food?

I saw food as dangerous.


How did your health make you feel?

I felt gross, unconfident about EVERYTHING! When I’m thin, I feel more equal to others and also feel that people respect and take me more seriously. Whether that’s a fact or not, it’s about my truth. That’s how I feel, and that impacts my overall happiness or sadness quite honestly.


How bad was your health, your energy levels? Mention physical stats – weight, blood metrics, any other ailments.  

I’m lucky enough to not suffer from any medical issues, although a glucose test revealed I was bordering becoming at risk of diabetes. All the more reason I got so angry with myself because all my issues were self-inflicted.


How did this impact your confidence and other parts of your life like your relationships, your career, love life etc? 

I feel not as good as other people, not worthy of promotions or respect at work. I wanted to avoid friends because each time they saw me the first thing they would comment on is my weight (put on or lost)… too much focus on it. And I’m just the same person – but it became about how I looked.


What made you decide to make the change?

White knuckling is not sustainable.


How did you discover RMR?

I had known about it since the book was published and followed banting then, and also through a friend.


What were you expecting?

To focus more on actual measurements and accountability of how much weight was lost each week.


What did you actually get?

A better understanding that it’s imperative to take a more TRANSFORMATIVE approach as opposed to a single weight loss goal approach. Focus on the longer term benefits rather than the short term.


What are some of the significant changes in your life that you believe came from RMR?

Understanding of why I think and behave like I do – of things I never realised before. Doesn’t mean I changed them instantly, but to have awareness helps to minimise the negative behaviour.


How did your experience differ from other health or diet experiences you have had before?

One had to put a lot of thought and effort into ALL areas of your life. Not only focus on outward appearance and weight on the scale.


What other physical or mental benefits are you experiencing? 

I feel like this is the beginning of a long journey of a BETTER approach. My all or nothing approach is problematic and I’m trying to find more balance. RMR certainly revealed that for me.


What kind of people do you think would benefit from RMR the way you have?

If you are the kind of person that is ALL OR NOTHING, or has constant noise in their head about food – I would definitely give this a go. There becomes a bit more acceptance of yourself with the Eating Psychology approach.


Any final thoughts?

I would recommend that every person who struggles with that constant noise in their heads should INVEST in themselves.. sooner rather than later because like most issues they only get worse, not better as time goes by.

If you connect with what Eve said and want to learn more about your relationship with food, check out the Emotional Eating Online Short Course